I have an aquaintence, I will not call him a freind. He is in bad health, in and out of the hospital, quite frequently. He lives on a fixed income, and it's not enough sometimes. He called me up and said he was in dire straights, no money for gas, or anthing. I gave the guy half the money I had in the bank at the time. $40.00.
He calls me up a few days later and asks for more, I give him another $40.00. Now, just so we are perfectly clear on this, I made it quite clear to him, this was a loan, a short term loan, not a gift. I am in no position myself to be doing that kind of thing, I've got problems of my own. He told me he got his SSI check on the 3rd, and he would pay me then. I sent him an Email on the 14th, and I still have not heard from him. Sonofab***h!
I need that money man. Don't do any one any favors. It doesn't pay off.
I know I should not have lent it, I obviousley did it out of the goodness of my heart. I'm not being anal, it's just that he had no problem calling me when he needed something, and now, nothing. If he called and said, "I can't pay you", that would be fine, but I don't even get that courtesy.
Thank you, tompin. Thatwas avery nice answer. I do like to help people when they are in need. It makes me feel good. I'm just too gullible, that's all. I knew this guy was a flake from past experience, and I did it anyway.
He offered to take my girlfreind out to dinner on her birthday, and showwed up with no money. Everybody else had to pitch in to pay for his dinner, and a takeout meal he took home to his roomate, who didn't even show up. Yeah, I knew what I was dealing with. Stupid me.
The part that really gets me is, I will bet you anything, he is out there buying crack cocaine. Yeah, I was aware of that problem too. What an idiot. I am way too trusting.
I have given away far more money, and lent much more that I never expected to get back. It just hurts sometimes. It's not about the $80.00, I think you know what it is about.

If you lend money to a friend it should be out of the goodness of your heart and you shouldn't be so anal about when he pays you back,. If you're so broke that you needed that money then maybe you shouldn't have lent it out.

Humanity is selfish by nature in order to survive. Just understand that and don't take it personal. Avoid situations where people can have the opportunity to screw you over if that is painful for you.

For one a lot of people are users, they have no problem asking for money, or help. And of course they say they will pay you back. You don't have it in writing, so basically you are out the money. You possibly could take him to court for the money(small claims court) but, that would probably cost you more than what you had loaned him.

There are people who are socio paths, they are users, abusers, liars and losers. Just type in sociopath in your browser and see what the signs of a sociopath are.

How do I know, cause I was taken to the cleaners by one. When someone promises to pay and you don't receive pay or some kind of contact by the time they say they will pay. Contact them, if they do not reply either something is wrong, or they had no intention of ever paying you back.

If he is on SSI and you know his funds don't reach and you know your funds are just about depleted, you should have said that you were unable to help him as you have no funds.

If he got mad about it, well then you know he was only using you. This goes for men as well as women, sisters, brothers, family.

Good luck to you. But, if you are having problems with money or lack of it, then you shouldn't have borrowed.

I know we are raised to help out others, but sometimes others just want to help themselves to what others have, and they have no remorse about it either

I lent my sister $4000 so she could get a car. I knew when I "lent" it that the chances of my seeing it were pretty slim, but I held out the hope that she would pay it back. When it became clear that she would not, that it would worry her but she wouldn't be in a position to pay it back, I came to terms with the loss, and told her to quit worrying about it. I said, "We can even up after you win the lottery."

I didn't want it to make her uncomfortable. I've never mentioned it to her again.

Was she screwing with me? Well, if I hadn't had it to lend, I wouldn't have lent it. She had reliable safe transportation, and I didn't have to worry about her breaking down and getting stranded somewhere. I might have made some interest on the money, but I didn't feel bad about helping her out. She has not asked me again for money, but if I had it and knew it would get her out of a bad situation, I'd send it again.

I sent my brother money, too, but he paid it back. His wife called and said they needed an extra month. I told her not to worry about it, if she never sent a dime. She sent it any way.

I recently sent a friend $250. It wasn't a loan, and I never expect to get it back. She is in debt due to legal problems her son got into. She had a fight with her husband, and they split up. She needed money to put down on utilities.

Again, I don't feel used. I was grateful I was in a position to help.